{"id":14,"date":"2026-04-13T14:12:36","date_gmt":"2026-04-13T14:12:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/buzzinghell.co.uk\/index.php\/equality-at-home\/"},"modified":"2026-06-22T16:57:51","modified_gmt":"2026-06-22T16:57:51","slug":"equality-at-home","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/buzzinghell.co.uk\/","title":{"rendered":"Equality at Home: why we argue about the washing up and how to stop"},"content":{"rendered":"\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Publication date: 13 July 2026<\/em><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Why do you make such a mess when you\u2019re cooking? Will you ever stop nagging me about the hoovering? When did you last help the kids with their homework? I did the shopping like you asked, but you\u2019re still giving me that look.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">While it\u2019s often women doing more than men, inequality and arguments about fairness can upset the lives of couples of every stripe and flavour. Sometimes it\u2019s just annoying, sometimes it can feel much, much worse. Repeating the same arguments over and over doesn\u2019t change anything.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">In this smart and entertaining book philosopher Helen Beebee and psychotherapist Matthew Elton dig into the dynamics of inequality in the home. They explain why the same old arguments don\u2019t work, but also why this is no reason to give up. The fixes aren\u2019t as simple as you might have hoped, but the practical suggestions in this book show they\u2019re not as impossible as you might fear.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-147 size-medium\" src=\"https:\/\/buzzinghell.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/square-cover-300x300.png\" alt=\"Picture of the cover of the book. Words are: Equality at Home: why we argue about the washing up and how to stop. Helen Beebee and Matthew Elton. Picture is a pixel graphics image of two robots with a hoover and a washing machine.\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/buzzinghell.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/square-cover-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/buzzinghell.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/square-cover-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/buzzinghell.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/square-cover-768x768.png 768w, https:\/\/buzzinghell.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/06\/square-cover.png 900w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\r\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\" \/>\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><i>\u201cEquality at Home explains why arguments about the washing-up or getting the kids ready for school are never simple and often leave both halves of a couple feeling hard done-by, even when they\u2019re both trying to divide the domestic chores equally.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/i><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><i>\u201cIt\u2019s a fun read and will help couples of all kinds who are committed to equality see just what they\u2019re up against\u2014and perhaps find a way forward. Domestic equality is probably still impossible in practice, but you can at least get to the point where you stop having blazing rows about loading the dishwasher.<\/i>\u201d<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.heatherwiddows.com\/everyday-lookism.html\">Heather Widdows<\/a>, author of <i>Perfect Me: Beauty as an Ethical Ideal<\/i><i><\/i><\/p>\r\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Publication date: 13 July 2026 Why do you make such a mess when you\u2019re cooking? Will you ever stop nagging me about the hoovering? When did you last help the kids with their homework? I did the shopping like you asked, but you\u2019re still giving me that look. 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